I like being alone.
All the time.
Considering my personality, you might find this hard to believe, but it's true, well at least it used to be. I was one of those women who didn't mess with other women because of "all of the drama". Women are "so extra" and "I don't have time for the foolishness".
I was so full of myself lol.
Up until very recently, I thought I still felt this way til I looked back over my year so far. Majority of the highlights of my year include women. Dope women. Fun women. Women that I trust and genuinely want to grow with.
God had been slowly prying open my shell and I didn't even realize lol.
I know it started with my dance ministry.
2016 has been a huge year for us. One of the highlights was our new members!! I prayed and asked for sisters. Women who would be just as committed as me and man, did God deliver!! I have been blessed to not only get more sisters who are dedicated and love to dance, but they genuinely have a heart to minister. Not only that, I gained more sisters through our partnering with another church. We just had a dance concert a few weeks ago and it was amazing!! I know part of that is because our chemistry as a group is amazing!!
Then we started doing small groups for Bible Study.
Small groups was an opportunity for me to interact with people that I wouldn't normally and I'm so glad we did because of the relationships that were formed. I now have friends.
That still feels weird to say, but it's true. I used to pride myself on having very few people in my inner circle, but that gets tired, especially depending on the season of life you're in.
I'm a firm believer in that every season is not for everybody. You can't expect everyone you started with to be there through your entire journey. It's unrealistic and unfair to their growth. With that being said, when some of me and my day 1's started to drift apart, I felt a little lost. I really didn't know how to interact with others or build friendships because I hadn't had to in so long. Luckily there were some women crazy enough who wanted to get to know me lol. More importantly, I allowed then to. I let down my walls a little and allowed them to get to know the real me. It's dope to be able to have a group of women that you can bounce ideas off of, vent to, ask to pray for you, or just kick it with. We're good a kicking it lol. I know that a lot of the growth that has taken place recently comes from being connected to these women and I'm grateful.
So I say all that to say...
Be open to change. Be open to new relationships. Just be open. Drake's "No New Friends" philosophy can only get your so far and as we all know, this life wasn't created to be a solo project.