Purity is Dope
If you've read my '...But I'm good at it' and 'Honesty is the best policy' blog posts, then you know that sex is something that I've struggled with. I used to believe that celibacy wasn't possible, but with the summer I've had, I knew that I needed to buckle down and really try, so I have. I've been intentional about how I spend my time and how I entertain certain people. Even with all that, I still needed encouragement and that's where my sisters came in.
I have this amazing big sister named Ashley who has a little sister named Amber. We all went to dinner one day and that conversation was EVERYTHING I needed! Amber and her bestie have a ministry called 24 Karat which focuses on maintaining purity til marriage.
As she sat and explained the thought process, she showed me her purity ring and explained that her and her best friend decided to get these rings to help signify their wait on God. Ashley has one too and all of them are cute and unique to them.
I had heard of purity rings before, but I never thought I'd have one as an adult. As I sat there and listened to her though, something in my mind clicked: I need to get a purity ring.
I have jewelry that signifies different times in my life and I wear when I feel a certain way. At this point in my life, I want to be fully about God like never before. I don't want to be distracted by things that are not of God and sometimes I tend to let penis be that distraction. I know that this process starts in my mind, so daily I've been focusing on making sure I'm exposing myself to positive things that are edifying to God. Now, I want a physical reminder of the work God is doing on the inside, hence my ring.
I got it in the mail recently and I love it! When I put it on I felt good because I thought about how it's another conversation starter about my faith!
Now I'm not saying that this is a magical ring that comes with a invisible chastity belt that will make me not lust for a second or have sex til I'm married. That's not realistic. What I am saying is that I can't trust just anyone with me. My wholeness of body, my peace of mind, my tender heart, and my soul is worth me waiting on God's best and I will no longer give away pieces of me. I will work to maintain my wholeness and as I'm moving the way God has called me to, he will bless me with someone I can trust. Until then, it's God, me, and my ring.
So to all my singles:
We can do this. This is possible. There are men/women who not only understand, but who are trying to do the same thing. You are worth it. You bring more to the table than what's between your legs (or any other parts because I know how we get down 😜). Your purpose is worth the wait. You are worth the wait.
And we're going to get through this season together!